Friday, December 30, 2016

Setting Realistic Healthy Goals For A New Year


The end of one year and the beginning of a new allows us the opportunity to reflect on the past. We can take this time to consider what we want to take forward and what we might prefer to leave behind. Plenty of us have a piece or two of our lives that we would like to improve. Most of us are aware of the resolutions of "I am going to finally get organized" or "I am going to get in shape this year" and the commitment to "enjoy life to the fullest". While those resolutions sound nice; it is more helpful and effective to set clear and specific goals for yourself that set you up for success. 

A lot of resolutions, especially in the media promote physical health goals, of joining gyms and a certain weight loss plan. Perhaps you can use this opportunity to think of ways to set meaningful healthy goals this year, and not just physically, but emotional health too. Maybe you want to start each day with a gratitude journal, learn and practice meditation before bed, treat yourself with more kindness by giving yourself a daily compliment, work on trusting that gut instinct more, returning to therapy to enhance your self-esteem, wanting to set healthier boundaries with family or friends, wanting to be a more authentic you, and so many more options to better yourself in a thoughtful, kind way.

It can be helpful to explore and define your goals with a professional counselor, who could facilitate objectively what you might want to work towards in the new year. Should you choose to set your goals on your own, make sure you break your goals down into smaller steps; share your goals with someone who cares and will help you keep a healthy accountability, and manage your expectations for a realistic outcome. Once you are "there"...don't forget to celebrate that feeling of achievement and reward yourself in the most compassionate way you know how.

If you would like to see if meeting with a therapist can be helpful for you to welcome new healthy habits moving forward contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at 240-274-5680, admin@healingllc.com, or www.healingllc.com

Monday, December 5, 2016

Managing Family Relationships During the Holidays

While it might be the most wonderful time of the year for some, for others it may be a difficult time to manage. The happy picture of the family gathered around the table, decorating the Christmas tree, or lighting the menorah may be real for many. There are others that have a different kind of experience in the family of origin and may have other feelings around the holiday season. Gathering with the family may be a tough, conflicting decision to make-wanting to be together with family and at the same time perhaps wanting to avoid a particular relative or keep some distance from some unhealthy family dynamics.

This holiday season try and allow yourself the permission and healthy opportunity to consider and implement what your needs are and what feels right for you. Respecting your own feelings, experiences, and wants and needs could be new to some. This might mean making different decisions or trying a new response to an old situation. That could mean choosing not to attend a gathering, or setting a brief time to go, say to visit for dessert. You may also contemplate getting together with friends, staying home, or creating your own fun and safe traditions.

The holiday times for the healthiest of families can be stressful! If you are struggling with this holiday season and would like to see if meeting with one of our counselors could be helpful for you, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at admin@healingllc.com, www.healingllc.com or 240-274-5680.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Building Self-Esteem

To some degree, we all face doubts and struggle at times with self-esteem. Thinking about improving your own self-esteem can seem daunting, overwhelming, and raise many other feelings, possibly even related to how you feel about yourself. While working with a therapist to understand how you feel about yourself and how you may have arrived to feel this way there are certain things you can do to help yourself along this healing journey. Below are some ways you can practice turning your self esteem toward a more positive direction.


Practice positive self talk. It is easy to talk critically to yourself, so instead try challenging a thought to a turn it into something more positive.

Try not to compare yourself to others.

Reflect on the accomplishments or times in your life you feel good about.

Get some physical exercise-  its quite empowering and reaps various physical and emotional benefits.

Set a small goal and achieve it. 

Don't beat yourself up: Talk to yourself as you would to a friend.

Focus on the things you can change/control, such as your reaction to certain experiences/events.

Spend time doing activities and things you enjoy.

Practice being in the moment, even for just a few breaths, or minutes.

Take care of you, you are the only one who truly can.

See if you can start with trying out one or two of the above self esteem building activities and check in with yourself about how you may feel. Small steps can lead to great gains to your self worth. If you find yourself struggling with self esteem or are thinking about how a therapist may be able to help you, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center. You may reach us at healingllc.com, 240-274-5680, or admin@healingllc.com.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Tips to Help Calm and Manage Anxiety


Many of us experience anxiety on a regular basis. Anxiety can show up in various ways and times and sometimes at really inconvenient moments! Most individuals can identify with the physical and emotional symptoms that can be associated with anxiety, such as feeling overwhelmed, unable to think clearly, feeling panicky,shortness of breath, racing heart, difficulty sleeping, restlessness, shifts in mood, eating more or less than usual, irritability, to name just a few of the ways anxiety can manifest.

While learning to understand your anxiety with the help of a professional (where the anxiety may stem from and what it means), there are ways to help limit anxious feelings or symptoms when they arise. Acknowledging the presence of anxiety is an important place to start. Be mindful that you are feeling anxious and that the anxiety does not have to define you in the moment. While it may feel overwhelming, there are several tips to help you manage and take more control over anxiety producing situations. 

Tips to help manage anxiety in the moment:

-Deep breathing techniques--can be done in any place at most any time (take a deep breath in through your nose or mouth for as long as you are able and then push that breath out until you feel the need to breath in again; repeat for 10 long breaths in and out, counting each inhale and exhale as a completed deep breath. Continue as long as necessary until feeling more calm

-Talk to someone-it can be helpful to talk about how your anxiety makes you feel and help you to feel not so alone in it

-Distractions- turning your attention to something else is helpful to take you away from the anxiety; such as playing video games, Sudoku, word-finds, coloring books, listening and singing along to music, taking a walk outside

While anxiety can be uncomfortable it does not have to stop you from enjoying your life to its fullest. If you find yourself struggling with anxiety and would like to see if meeting with a professional counselor could be helpful for you reach out to us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center 240-274-5680, admin@healingllc.com or www.healingllc.com.

Thursday, July 21, 2016

Tips For A Good Nights Rest

Many can relate to the lethargic symptoms associated with the lack of a good nights sleep. Without a routine good nights rest the effects of sleeplessness can be felt in daily functioning at both home and work. Sleeplessness can be a factor or symptom in some mental health disorders such as depression and anxiety. There are also more significant sleep issues that could be attributed to medical conditions such as sleep apnea or insomnia. It is always encouraged to discuss any sleep related concerns with your medical and mental health providers to help determine the cause and help guide best treatment for you,

Some suggestions to support a good nights sleep:

-put phone and other electronic devices aside for 30 minutes to an hour before bedtime
-as much as possible, keep a consistent bedtime and wake time
-maintain the bed for sleep time only; if you have difficulty falling asleep, get up and do something else, like read on the couch or sweep the kitchen floors
-try calming aromatherapy, such as lavender oils in the bath or linen sprays intended for bed time use.  
-develop a night time routine (think of it like we do for children...a warm bath, glass of milk, read a chapter of a book, and lights out)
-if you are laying in bed and having difficulty falling asleep instead of counting sheep, try something that works your brain differently, like recalling the first and last name of those you attended grade school with, in alphabetical order (e.g., Alison Smith, Bob Brown, Charlie Moore)
-If you happen to be more sensitive to noise within or outside your home, consider purchasing a white noise machine or small fan to drown out any sounds that could prevent you from falling or staying asleep
- With a doctors approval, try an over the counter natural herbal remedy, such as Melatonin, Valerian, or Chamomile to help.
-If you are particularly anxious or depressed there is a likelihood that you will experience some sleep disturbance, so it may be beneficial to consult with your primary doctor or psychiatrist to discuss more medical based interventions to help you get the best rest possible

If you find yourself having difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep and would like to discuss this with a professional counselor to see how we may be of help, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at 240-274-5680admin@healingllc.com or visit our website atwww.healingllc.com

Friday, June 24, 2016

Exercise and Mental Health

It is no secret that physical exercise is so important for the health of your body. What may be more surprising are the benefits of exercise to your mental health and overall well-being. There are significant ways exercise supports mental health! You have likely heard of the "runner's high", the endorphins (the feel good chemicals) that get released during exercise and other physical activity. Beyond the endorphin release are multiple other reasons to lace up your sneakers and take a walk, or head to the gym. Some of these include:

-Taking the time out for yourself: When else do you make time just for YOU? 
-Making yourself a priority (body and mind).
-Physical activity allows you to focus on the task at hand, and practice being in the moment. A chance to put aside the to-do list/worries/concerns temporarily. 
-You get the opportunity to try new workouts and change it up if you get bored of the latest one. For example, if you are tired from running try a spinning class, yoga, interval training, or any other activity that keeps you moving, motivated and stimulated.
-Challenging yourself-ever thought about rock climbing, trapezeing, or signing up for a 5k run? There may be physical activities that sound intimidating if they are new, but it also allows you the chance to try out something different. By pushing yourself outside your comfort zone you may experience a confidence boost as well.
-Fun-if you prefer to walk with a friend, or join a club sports team it is a great chance to catch up and/or meet new friends and connect while doing your body and mind some good.
-Control-We certainly do not have control over some parts of life, but we can control what we decide to do with our bodies. By keeping a structured time to exercise your muscles allows you to have a little bit of what you can control while perhaps keeping some anxiety at ease.
-Chance to modify-Physical injuries, disabilities or limitations do not necessarily have to keep you from being active; you may need to modify what you had been doing for example, if you were running 3 times per week and developed a foot injury you may need to explore other options such as swimming or bike riding to alleviate pressure on a certain body part while continuing to achieve the benefits of regular exercise.

While it seems easy to come up with an excuse not to exercise, see if you can find a reason TO make that time for yourself.  If starting a new or different exercise routine it is encouraged to check with your physician first. If you are thinking about making some changes in your lifestyle and would like to explore this further with one of our therapists, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at admin@healingllc.com or 240-274-5680 or visit our website at www.healingllc.com.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

The Weather and Your Mood

Based on the recent long stretches of rainy, cloudy, cool spring weather you may wonder about the effect this environment might have on your mood. Looking out the window on a rainy day can feel almost underwhelming where you just want to crawl back into bed and stay there. If you are already susceptible to feeling sad and lonely, the dreary weather certainly doesn't help.  

Formerly referred to as "Seasonal Affective Disorder" (appropriately, SAD); the actual clinical terminology in the DSM-5 is now "Recurrent Depressive Disorder with a Seasonal Pattern" that occurs at a specific time of the year that otherwise is not present. The DSM-5 criteria for diagnosing depression with a seasonal pattern includes having these experiences for at least the last two years:
  • Depression that begins during a specific season every year
  • Depression that ends during a specific season every year
  • No episodes of depression during the season in which you experience a normal mood
  • Many more seasons of depression than seasons without depression over the lifetime of your illness
While it may not feel good to experience a seasonal pattern of depression, the positive to having a seasonal mood shift is that you are likely able to plan ahead for it. For example, before winter begins may be an opportunity to look ahead to what you might need to feel well later. This may include getting more supportive therapy during this time, stepping up an exercise routine to get that extra boost of serotonin (the chemical that stabilizes and boosts your mood); using a light box: http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/light-therapy/home; signing up for a new activity; exploring with a Psychiatrist if a mood stabilizing medication would be appropriate and helpful to bridge you to the next season so you can feel better. 

On a day to day basis if you notice a drop in your mood and energy perhaps related to the weather, consider some of the following tips to keep your mood up:
* Listening to fun, feel good music
* Get out of the house and do something different such as visiting a museum or getting together with a friend
* Watching a funny movie
* Meditation or yoga
* Go play with puppies, or kittens, or babies (whatever makes you smile)

Next time you see the rain drops falling outside your window, stop and think how you may be able to buffer your mood from dropping as well. If you are concerned about your mood regardless of the weather and want to see if meeting with a therapist could benefit you, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at admin@healingllc.com or 240-274-5680, or you can visit our website at www.healingllc.com.

The Weather and Your Mood

Based on the recent long stretches of rainy, cloudy, cool spring weather you may wonder about the effect this environment might have on your mood. Looking out the window on a rainy day can feel almost underwhelming where you just want to crawl back into bed and stay there. If you are already susceptible to feeling sad and lonely, the dreary weather certainly doesn't help.  

Formerly referred to as "Seasonal Affective Disorder" (appropriately, SAD); the actual clinical terminology in the DSM-5 is now "Recurrent Depressive Disorder with a Seasonal Pattern" that occurs at a specific time of the year that otherwise is not present. The DSM-5 criteria for diagnosing depression with a seasonal pattern includes having these experiences for at least the last two years:
  • Depression that begins during a specific season every year
  • Depression that ends during a specific season every year
  • No episodes of depression during the season in which you experience a normal mood
  • Many more seasons of depression than seasons without depression over the lifetime of your illness
While it may not feel good to experience a seasonal pattern of depression, the positive to having a seasonal mood shift is that you are likely able to plan ahead for it. For example, before winter begins may be an opportunity to look ahead to what you might need to feel well later. This may include getting more supportive therapy during this time, stepping up an exercise routine to get that extra boost of serotonin (the chemical that stabilizes and boosts your mood); using a light box: http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/light-therapy/home; signing up for a new activity; exploring with a Psychiatrist if a mood stabilizing medication would be appropriate and helpful to bridge you to the next season so you can feel better. 

On a day to day basis if you notice a drop in your mood and energy perhaps related to the weather, consider some of the following tips to keep your mood up:
* Listening to fun, feel good music
* Get out of the house and do something different such as visiting a museum or getting together with a friend
* Watching a funny movie
* Meditation or yoga
* Go play with puppies, or kittens, or babies (whatever makes you smile)

Next time you see the rain drops falling outside your window, stop and think how you may be able to buffer your mood from dropping as well. If you are concerned about your mood regardless of the weather and want to see if meeting with a therapist could benefit you, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at admin@healingllc.com or 240-274-5680, or you can visit our website at www.healingllc.com.

Monday, April 25, 2016

Body Image and Summertime

Spring is here and that means summer is right around the corner. Gym ads, magazines, and clothing stores promote getting "beach body ready". The thought of this could be exciting for some; and leave others feeling "less than" thrilled about having more skin exposed. Most everyone has something that is less than desired about his/her own body; whether it be feeling not tall enough; not skinny enough; not buff enough; skin too pale; too many scars, ______ (enter your body insecurity here). 

If you have body image concerns, the idea of putting on a bathing suit can be overwhelming and bring up a lot of feelings. Being invited to a pool party or going to the beach can be anxiety provoking. Additionally, shopping for a swim suit or outfit to wear in the hot weather can feel dreadful. 

Regardless of your body size and shape you deserve to be able to feel comfortable on the beach and/or in the pool. So, here are a few tips and thoughts to consider when shopping for warm weather attire.

- Try to check the emotions at the dressing room door: keep focused on finding what fits comfortably and feels like it could work. Give yourself permission to try different sizes though don't get hung up on the number on the tag. The idea is to get what you need without moving into that easy to go to place of feeling bad or worse about yourself and your body. One way to leave your emotions at the door, is to first acknowledge whatever feelings you are having, and possibly even try to identify where these automatic feelings and thoughts come from. If you allow the feelings to be heard and acknowledged, they may be more willing to take a little break while you go shopping, and let you try on some clothing that might fit really well and feel really comfortable!

- Combat the negative self talk with thinking back to a place and time when you felt really strong and good (examples: recent work accomplishment, facing a specific fear, having a difficult conversation)  Really think about how you felt, how your posture was, what sensations did you notice on your body, and any particular sounds or smells associated with that time. Try to use your senses to embody how you felt when you felt strong and know you can conjure up that feeling, any time you need it.

-Find an accessory that you are excited about to pair with your swim wear, whether a fun necklace, cool baseball hat, funny t-shirt, or new flip-flops.

The bottom line is to allow yourself be able to enjoy being in the summer moments as much as possible despite how you might feel about your body. You can practice being more present and enjoy the moment when you are thinking and worrying less about how your bathing suit fits. If you find it difficult to move past some of these ideas and are struggling with body image and want to see if meeting with a professional therapist could be helpful, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center at admin@healingllc.com or 240-274-5680. Or you can visit our website at www.HealingLLC.com.

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Self-Care


Self Care seems to be all the buzz these days. Do you know what it really means?   Further more, what it means to you and what self-care looks like for you. Self-care is literally that; intentionally taking care of ones-self. It is giving yourself the time, love, and attention to nourish your mind, body, and soul. 

A busy mom is a good example of someone who might need a reminder to care for herself. "I don't have time" is a common reason people cite for not engaging in self care behaviors; though what some might not realize is self care can be simple and not necessarily a time guzzler. The last thing anyone seems to need these days is more on his/her plate and added stress. Taking good care of yourself may mean adding a small bit of time to your daily routine, but time spent that you will likely feel throughout the day/week.   Examples of self care include: taking a 10 minute bubble bath; 3 minute breathing exercises; 5 minute daily meditation. Other examples might be: taking a walk each morning; doing yoga a few times per week; scheduling time for a professional massage, leaving work on time to make a healthy dinner for yourself; committing to regular therapy sessions; listening to soothing music or reading a book; scheduling time away (even if for a few hours) with yourself, family, or friends. 

The mom above might wonder how she will make that time happen...But the bigger question is if she doesn't take care of herself, who will and if she doesn't have a self care practice, what is the consequence to her and her family? Is she more irritable, feeling overwhelmed, emotionally and physically exhausted.)  Self-care really is a "return on your investment" It truly is taking good care of yourself to feel like a better YOU, for you and your loved ones. 

How do you take care of yourself? If you do not currently have a routine practice of self care, can you think of what you might like to implement?

If you'd like to discuss this further to see if a professional therapist could be helpful, contact us at Gaithersburg Counseling Center, at 240-274-5680 or admin@HealingLLC.com. Or you can visit our website for more information at www.HealingLLC.com.

Friday, March 4, 2016

How To Respond To A Loss

It is one of the guarantees of life, and it is not taxes; it is the other one, death. To be intentionally blunt, we will all some day die; we will lose loved ones, expectedly and sometimes unexpectedly.  Despite this being a universal truth that crosses all societies and cultures; we often still continue to struggle to find the appropriate way to express condolences to friends, family, and colleagues in a time of loss. Oftentimes a lot of thought goes into the decisions of how to acknowledge grief after learning the loss of someones near and dear. 

* To go or not to go to a Funeral, Wake, Visitation, Shiva, Memorial? 
* To send a card, make a telephone call, write an email, bring a meal, or send flowers?

A common struggle is to figure out "what to say" to or "what to do" for a person in mourning. Are there "right" words to say? People often shy away from talking about a death/loss due to ones own discomfort with death. The uncomfortable feelings that can get stirred up in us may be related to multiple factors, including our own personal recent and past losses. There is often a desire and anxiety about wanting to say the proper thing. Sometimes that anxiety or uncertainty about what to say results in nothing being said or done, perhaps leading to more uncomfortable feelings. When in a position of feeling unsure about what to say, think about what you might appreciate from a friend/family member/colleague if you were in mourning. 
Perhaps you would like:
* a hug
* someone to just sit and be with you
* someone to just acknowledge your loss "I am so sorry for your loss" or "I don't have the right words, but know I am here for you" or simply "thinking of you during this difficult time"
* knowing you are not alone and people do care

Important to consider as well is losses come in variety of forms as well, including: loss of a job, death of a pet, a pregnancy miscarriage or infertility, ending of relationship or divorce. Times does help heal, though grief has no time line and it is important to remember that everyone truly does cope and deal with losses in different ways and in his/her own time. If you find yourself having a difficult time managing around a death or another loss, a trained therapist can help you sort through your feelings and support you and help you cope with the pain and loss. Here at Another Look At Healing, Now Gaithersburg Counseling Center we have multiple counselors available to talk with and see if counseling could be helpful for you at this time. Contact us for more information or resources at 240-274-5680 or Admin@HealingLLC.com or visit us online at www.HealingLL.com.

Friday, February 12, 2016

Common Misconceptions In Going to a Therapist/Counselor/Psychotherapist

Common Misconceptions of going to a Therapist/Counselor/PsychotherapistThe thought of going to therapy can be scary and perhaps intimidating, which is normal. There are several misconceptions about going to therapy that we would like to outline to hopefully ease some of your anxieties about getting started.

1) You will be expected to lay down on the couch and talk about all your deepest darkest secrets

Most therapist offices these days have a couch (to sit on); or chairs to sit on; and you will usually be sitting facing each other. Trained Psychoanalysts conducting traditional psychoanalysis will have a patient lay down on a couch while the psychoanalyst will be sitting behind him or her listening. That type of therapy is quite different than the general psychotherapy I am referring to in this article. In therapy, you share what you are comfortable with sharing at the given time; the therapist knows to go at a pace you are comfortable with and understands building a relationship that feels safe takes time.


2) Your therapist has all the answers.

Surprise! No training in the world could offer anyone the solutions to every patients problems/concerns. In fact, most well trained therapists rather than give you answers, will help you develop tools and come to your own solutions with his/her help. In addition you can and will learn ways of managing on your own more effectively.

3) Only those who are "crazy" seek therapy.

No. No, and no. Seeking therapy and help for a mental health disorder, crisis, or to improve self in various ways is seen as a strength. It is actually quite brave and healthy (not crazy) to be willing to seek help/therapy. People go to therapy for so many different reasons including relationship concerns, grief/loss,to improve self esteem/confidence, difficulty in decision making, change of life events, and sometimes just to have an objective person to talk with. Often our cultural beliefs, societal, and family beliefs play into our personal beliefs about counseling.


4) I had a bad experience in therapy, why would I bother trying again?

Unfortunately there are times when one might try therapy and find that there is not that "right fit" with the therapist.  It can be painful to start with a therapist, allow yourself to be vulnerable to then find that the counselor you started with is not the best fir for you. Starting over with a new therapist can be difficult, but often significant for your best experience in therapy. Sometimes you might need to check out a few different professionals to find a therapist who will be supportive in a way that is going to be most helpful for you. It does take more energy to do that work, but in the end the right fit can make all the difference and feel worth it.


5) I don't need a therapist...I have friends/family/partner/co-workers to talk to.

Friends are great to have and even better to be able to share with especially when conflicts arise in your personal life. A therapist is an objective person who wants ultimately the best for you and may help you see things about yourself that perhaps your friend is not willing to share with you.

Overall, therapy/counseling can seem like a mysterious experience with a lot of misconceptions out there about the process in general. If you have been considering therapy or feel like you may want to give yourself the opportunity to try to get help reaching out is the first (and big!) step. If you have any questions about our services feel free to contact us as we would be pleased to talk with you. You can reach us at www.HealingLLC.com or by calling 240-274-5680 or emailing Admin@HealingLLC.com.